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How and when to talk to your daughter about her first period

Your daughter’s first experience with menstruation can set the stage for how she sees her growing, changing body.

If she has her first period without knowing what’s happening, she may feel ill-prepared, insecure and even traumatized. You can help prevent these negative associations by talking to your daughter about her period beforehand—setting her up to feel well-informed, empowered, and confident in her own skin.

Let’s explore how.

At what age should I talk to my daughter about periods?

When talking about periods with your daughter, start early and talk often.

Menstruation typically begins around age 12 but can happen as early as 8 (1). Conversations about periods might sound different with an 8-year-old compared to one with a 12-year-old, and that’s typical. You can keep conversations and answers simple with younger children to avoid overwhelming them with detailed information (2).

As she approaches puberty—around 11 or 12—you can feel free to go into more detail about menstruation, its purpose, and the reproductive organs involved. Nearly 50 percent of girls will experience their first periods by age 11 (3). But you don’t have to dodge questions and wait years to acknowledge the subject.

Even curious toddlers have questions about their mom’s behavior (if you’re a mom of small children, you already know bathroom privacy rarely exists!). So, if she sees you inserting a tampon or using a heating pad for cramps, use the opportunity as a teaching experience. Little by little, you may find yourself discussing periods around the same time your child is learning to talk!

Talk often and start early.

Chances are you won’t have to initiate conversations about menstruation. Instead, your daughter’s brain, much like a sponge, will absorb the information she learns as a child and builds upon her knowledge of menstruation as she grows (4).

From an early age, children are naturally curious and might ask you questions like:

    “What’s that?” as you purchase a box of tampons. “Where do babies come from?” “Why do you have hair ‘down there’ and I don’t?”

It’s helpful for children to understand what’s happening with their growing bodies before puberty approaches. You can accomplish this by using every small opportunity to empower and inform your daughter about her own anatomy and natural bodily processes.

What if I have trouble talking to my daughter about periods?

You're not alone if you’re uncomfortable talking to your kids about periods.

Research shows that at least one-third of women feel awkward talking about periods to their children (5). Talking to your daughter about personal matters might not feel like a walk in the park, but empowering her with knowledge will help her develop confidence and appreciation for her body as she ages.

When you’re caught off guard with a question about periods — no matter your child’s age — try to pause, breathe, and relax. Your daughter will pick up on your body language and demeanor, so consider “leaning in” to the conversation and viewing it as an opportunity to teach your child practical information.

While nearly half the global population experiences periods, attitudes surrounding menstruation haven’t always been accepting, open, or even kind (6). Considering more than 40 percent of women report being “period-shamed,” and similar percentages feel uncomfortable discussing their anatomy, negative stigmas still exist (7). However, talking to your daughter about her period offers a chance to change the narrative and destigmatize the way culture shaped beliefs about menstruation in the past.

Using positive, informative language to talk about periods with your daughter can sound like (8):

    “When you have a period, you will bleed. Some days you will bleed heavily and some days, you will bleed lightly. It’s a normal part of being a healthy, growing girl and nothing to feel ashamed or scared of.”
    “Sometimes periods can cause a bit of a sore tummy or feel uncomfortable. However, you can do many things to feel better, and it only lasts a short while.”
    “You may feel more emotional while on your period — and that’s normal, too! Your body’s hormones are adjusting, and it will pass.”

What Should I Say During the “Period Talk”?

< p>During talks about periods, leading with positivity and transparency helps introduce puberty in a way that feels natural and straightforward.

To accomplish this, you can keep an open door for conversations over the years instead of waiting for one big “period talk.” If your daughter has questions, answer them plainly. It might sound something like:

“During your period, blood flows from your uterus/womb out of your vagina. Most women, including you, will experience this throughout their lifetime—and it’s normal. ”

You can continue with essential facts to further explain the menstrual cycle. Points might cover (9):

  • The age at which most women start menstruating: as young as eight but generally between 10 and 15
  • Her changing body during puberty: pubic hair growth, developing breasts, acne, body odor, and hormones
  • What “pregnancy” entails: the fertilization of an egg with a male’s sperm
  • Clarification about what the blood is: the inner lining of her uterus
  • How often periods happen and how long they last: 28 to 30-day cycles for 7 to 10 days

Using scientific words for your daughter’s body educates her about her anatomy and removes shame from the conversation. To do this, avoid words like “private part” or “time of the month” and try replacing them with what they stand for. For example, you can explain the difference between the vulva and vagina, and use scientific terms such as breast, menstruation, fertilization, and uterus (6).

Above all, validating her feelings will support her in processing the changes that come with menstruation. Allowing her to lead conversations and answer questions as they come will also keep the door open for questions along the way. If you’re unsure how to answer, it’s okay to respond with, “I’m not sure, but let me think about it and I’ll come back to you with an answer.”

How TINA Can Help Prepare Your Daughter for Her First Period

TINA is a product that simplifies how you experience menstruation and self-care. It is especially beneficial learning to insert a tampon for the first time for those with limited mobility or disability.

Our customers have found TINA helpful for their daughters and young adults experiencing menstruation for the first time:

    “I’m a pediatric occupational therapist working with children/teens with upper extremity disabilities — many of which have issues using their hands for hygiene such as tampon insertion.”
    — Justine
    “I have three daughters who are about to start their periods and this will be much easier. Easier for me too!”
    — Erica
    “I [am] interested in this product for my 11-year-old daughter who has spina bifida.”
    — Jacqueline

Try TINA Today

If your daughter is interested in using tampons, we’re here to help. Learn more about how TINA helps with tampon insertion, especially for those with limited mobility.

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